Helping a Friend with Stalking
Victims of stalking can exhibit a variety of different behaviors
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They may feel angry, irritated, fearful, shameful or hopeless about their situation.
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They may attempt to minimize the danger by saying something like “It’s no big deal.”
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They may even try to take responsibility for the situation or feel protective of the stalker.
What You Can Do to Help
Things to look out for ---
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If your friend is showing signs of strain, let your friend know what you notice and express your concern.
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Encourage her/him to keep a record of what has been happening and help preserve any evidence.
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Consider referring her/him to a confidential and supportive resource like The Counseling Center or Crisis Services.
Things to avoid ---
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Do not try to minimize the situation.
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Do not try to run your own investigation
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Do not confront the stalker because it can easily backfire and escalate things, putting you or your friend at risk.
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Do not make this about you.